1. Don’t Wait For An Apology
There will be times you’ll need to forgive in spite of a weak apology, and there will be other times that an apology isn’t even offered. Choose to forgive because it benefits you!
2. Practice Giving The Benefit Of The Doubt
Start with the belief that your spouse had good intentions or at least that they did not intend to hurt you.
3. Be Clear And Kind About Why You Hurt
When you are truly hurt, you deserve the chance to be heard, but avoid blaming and criticizing language when you explain yourself.
4. Remember You Are On The Same Team
Forgiveness can be a win-win situation. Stay out of the trap of being at odds with your spouse.
5. Accept An Apology When It Is Offered
You may need some time to internalize it, so don’t pressure yourself into acting like you are over it before you are. Forgive, but ask for some time to process your feelings if you need it.
6. Don’t Dig Up Buried Offenses
Nothing prevents healing like bringing up old wounds and reminding your spouse that you have not forgotten. A good forgiver leaves the past in the past.
7. Consider Extending Your Own Olive Branch
Even if you’re still feeling the sting of their offense, doing something nice for your spouse can bridge the gap between you just enough to help them know they are forgiven.