7 Ways To Become A Better Forgiver

1. Don’t Wait For An Apology

There will be times you’ll need to forgive in spite of a weak apology, and there will be other times that an apology isn’t even offered. Choose to forgive because it benefits you!

2. Practice Giving The Benefit Of The Doubt

Start with the belief that your spouse had good intentions or at least that they did not intend to hurt you.

3. Be Clear And Kind About Why You Hurt

When you are truly hurt, you deserve the chance to be heard, but avoid blaming and criticizing language when you explain yourself.

4. Remember You Are On The Same Team

Forgiveness can be a win-win situation. Stay out of the trap of being at odds with your spouse.

5. Accept An Apology When It Is Offered

You may need some time to internalize it, so don’t pressure yourself into acting like you are over it before you are. Forgive, but ask for some time to process your feelings if you need it.

6. Don’t Dig Up Buried Offenses

Nothing prevents healing like bringing up old wounds and reminding your spouse that you have not forgotten. A good forgiver leaves the past in the past.

7. Consider Extending Your Own Olive Branch

Even if you’re still feeling the sting of their offense, doing something nice for your spouse can bridge the gap between you just enough to help them know they are forgiven.